Judge Not….

From The Greatest Teacher

Jesus taught us not to be critical of each other, and to only judging each other righteously. This can be difficult for us especially when things are going well in our lives. For example when our children are not in trouble ,when we are doing well financially, and we are not going through a time of stress. It is times like these when most people are more likely to look down their noses at others. When a little child cries and needs to be taken out of church, when a family shows up late, hair not combed, clothes not ironed, wearing the scent of a few days without a bath. It is easy to think, “at least our children are clean, or at least we take the time to iron our clothes or hang them up”. It is much more difficult to try to imagine what the family has been through the past week. This may be what Jesus was trying to teach us when he said, “Judge no that ye be not judged.” The rest of the scripture is even better, “for with the same judgement that ye judge, ye shall also be judged.” (paraphrased) This could mean if we are willing to give people a break and cut them some slack, Jesus may do the same when it comes time to judge us?

Judging Parenting Skills

Adult peer pressure can be a lot more difficult to live up to than the pressure teens deal with. For example a family in the church has a teen that has been arrested, or has just been expelled from school. The teen is a train wreck, abusing drugs, having sex, in total defiance of the family rules. Other parents can easily observe the chaos the family is in and think, where did the parents go wrong?” Others may immediately assume the parents have failed to teach the teen what is right and wrong. It is so easy to be critical of a situation like this. True friends and disciples of the Savior will not be bashful to step up and offer any help they can to the family in distress. Another important factor to consider when “judging” this type of situation, is the free agency of the teen that is obviously choosing an alternative path. It may be that the parents have spent more time and energy on this child than families with “well behaved” children and teens. It may even be the “well behaved” children are equally as bad, but have just not been caught yet. Everyone comes to earth with the ability to choose which path they will follow. There are some teens that may take a different path for a while, and then return to what they have been taught. In Proverbs 22 we learn that we are to train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. (paraphrased) Interesting that it doesn’t say force a child to do what is right and he will not depart. The word train means exactly that train the online dictionary defines train as:  http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/train

to develop or form the habits, thoughts, or behavior of (a child or other person) by discipline and instruction: to train an unruly boy.
It should be clear that parents can only do so much, the rest is up to each individual child. The next time the temptation comes to look down on a person it may be helpful to cut them a little slack. It makes this task easier when we look at others and think, they are probably doing the best they can.